We are told as kids that words can’t hurt, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. I have grown so much in the last year in regards to love and relationships, but hear me when I say that I still have a ways to go. Sometimes, it’s not about who wins the argument or even who started it. But in the heat of the battle, when emotions are high, it’s hard to think about the root cause of a conflict and a solution for it.
In fact, it is easier to scream and say mean things, then to rationally discuss difficult topics. But any relationship worth maintaining is worth the uncomfortable feelings that only transparency can provide.
Bottom line, we should strive to refrain from saying things that we can’t take back, because “sorry” can’t make the unforgivable okay.
When I was younger, I had my mind made up about most things. My opinions were fixed and I thought that I had constructed what I believed to be an informed, mature, and well-rounded perspective on life.
I was wrong.
As I quickly approach forty and reflect back to my twenty year old self, I realize that despite my control freak desire to live a life in black and white, I live my life in the grey. We all do. And the funny thing about life is that the more you live, the more you experience, and experience is the greatest teacher.
Now, having said that. I am not suggesting that you release your convictions or forget about your values. These are the things that govern our life.
I am simply saying: understand that what may seem like a “never” at twenty-two, probably won’t at thirty-two.