10 Things to Never Apologize For

  1. The person you are
  2. Speaking the truth
  3. Doing the right thing
  4. Following your heart
  5. Standing up for yourself or someone else
  6. Listening to your gut
  7. Being different
  8. Showing emotion
  9. Having standards
  10. Ending something that needed to be ended

Monthly Mantra – April 2017

 

I am not what has happened to me, I am what I choose to be!
-Carl Jung

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This month, my best me will learn from the past but not allow it to dictate my present or future.

#Live in the Present.

Lesson Learned: Sticks and Stones

We are told as kids that words can’t hurt, but that couldn’t be further from the truth.   I have grown so much in the last year in regards to love and relationships, but hear me when I say that I still have a ways to go.  Sometimes, it’s not about who wins the argument or even who started it.  But in the heat of the battle, when emotions are high, it’s hard to think about the root cause of a conflict and a solution for it.

In fact, it is easier to scream and say mean things, then to rationally discuss difficult topics. But any relationship worth maintaining is worth the uncomfortable feelings that only transparency can provide.

Bottom line, we should strive to refrain from saying things that we can’t take back, because “sorry” can’t make the unforgivable okay.

Lesson Learned: Never Say Never

When I was younger, I had my mind made up about most things.  My opinions were fixed and I thought that I had constructed what I believed to be an informed, mature, and well-rounded perspective on life.

I was wrong.

As I quickly approach forty and reflect back to my twenty year old self, I realize that despite my control freak desire to live a life in black and white, I live my life in the grey. We all do.  And the funny thing about life is that the more you live, the more you experience, and experience is the greatest teacher.

Now, having said that.  I am not suggesting that you release your convictions or forget about your values.  These are the things that govern our life.

I am simply saying:  understand that what may seem like a “never” at twenty-two, probably won’t at thirty-two.

Monthly Mantra #3 – March 2017

My best me sees obstacles as opportunities for personal growth, because you get out of life what you put into it.

Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.  Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.
James 1:2-4 (NIV)

#Self Improvement